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Post by Sharon on Dec 10, 2005 18:58:06 GMT -6
So.. what is it? What is YOUR definition of Love? Does it exist? Love and TRUE love, is there a difference? Is there such thing as "Unconditional Love" and what is that exactly? ...is it just another commercial concept? something to write songs about, something to promote products with? Is it for you? Have you found it? Have you found it and lost it? Are you looking for it?
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Post by indridcold on Dec 11, 2005 3:13:47 GMT -6
Howdy... I believe in love. Love is one of the best things ever.
I've found it, lost it, found it, lost it again... and now I might be falling again...
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Post by Laura on Dec 11, 2005 7:23:07 GMT -6
I keep seeing people saying they've fallen in love at first site or after three weeks of dating, they are in love.
I don't believe that.
I have lost all my hope in love. In real love, that is. Not really love in myself and my love for others or their love for me ... but the definition of real love.
My feeling for love is that it runs deep. It lives in the platelets that travel through our bloodstream and it isn't infatuation or lust. It is just that: love and it takes more than a couple of seconds, days, weeks to truly feel it.
Now it's nothing but a word. It has no significance or meaning. No depth or feeling. At least, to me, people have lost the true definition. People nowadays get married after three months of dating, etc, etc. I'm not saying you can't fall in love after that - it is possible to think you are in love and then eventually fall in love. I'm saying, a lot of the times it is bullsh*t.
For me, when someone helps me remember how to smile, teaches me how to laugh again ... then I can hopefully define what real love is to me, as a person.
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Post by Laura on Feb 1, 2006 18:39:37 GMT -6
wait ... there is something I still believe in - pearl jam is love  |
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Post by Sharon on Feb 1, 2006 19:53:27 GMT -6
hehe of course! i'm surprised that there aren't that many replies to this thread (i honestly forgot that i started it)
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Post by Laura on Feb 1, 2006 20:02:48 GMT -6
I guess they don't want to share their feelings. Unfeelers!!
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Post by fightingirishman on Feb 1, 2006 21:11:29 GMT -6
I forget where I heard it, but someone said that love is where someone else's happiness becomes more important than your own. That really resonated with me, so that's my working definition. I don't think that there is unconditional love, if a girl's being a jerk to me, I think I'll eventually fall out of love. Love of this type is not something I've ever experienced. I've had familial love and all that, but not romantic love. And I'm definitely looking for it. I mean, I don't expect to find it tomorrow or the next day, but eventually, that'd be a good thing. Just taking it slow and the like.
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Post by Laura on Feb 1, 2006 21:16:12 GMT -6
^people's happiness has always been more important to me until I got depressed and now I'm aiming to be happy first then find someone to make happy. I'm happy sometimes so that's a good progress from when I was sad all the time. I haven't really had romantic love ... I can't really say I was in love when it was so long ago and I was so young. I think I'm old enough to grasp the concept of what it can be so it's better because I might be surprised  Stupid jerk off back in the day made me hate men for a long time. Then I finally go "okay, I'll give it another try" and that guy was a f***ing prick too (oh and after I dumped him he spread rumours about me...not that I really cared but shows you how much of a loser he was). Damn. |
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Post by jigglytuffy on Feb 5, 2006 14:00:22 GMT -6
Well love is far from my mind at the moment. It's nice to have, but I got other things on my mind at the moment. Sometimes love is drama, unneeded drama, and I don't need uneeded drama. Never been in love with a guy. (As in boyfriend) However I do love Johnny Depp and Orlando Bloom, if that counts.  |
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Post by thecrazybeautiful on Feb 9, 2006 16:17:40 GMT -6
Love.
It's way too deep, too big for me to put into words. But, as was said above, it's drama. So much drama.
I've never been in love. I haven't lived long enough to have actually have been in love. Love is scary, and warm, and a mystery. I don't really know how else to describe my idea of it.
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Post by Oxel on Feb 14, 2006 18:14:05 GMT -6
I am just a loser who can't find love
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Post by bapiau on Mar 20, 2006 4:43:38 GMT -6
I'm dead inside.
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Post by sharonslover on May 8, 2006 8:24:46 GMT -6
Love is a topic that i as so willing to talk about but find it getting harder to because of the way people judge situations about love some believe in love true love love at first sight some people just think that there will all ways be a juliet or a romeo to cure there love sick wounds and to honest i am one of those people i believe in love at first sight because it led me right to one of the most incredible people that i ever met and sometimes being a hopless romantic is a curse it is a "flaw" that i wouldnt change
Ps i finally got to stars YEAH!!!!!!!!!
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Post by Only Me on May 8, 2006 9:58:35 GMT -6
I didn't even realize this board had been started... lol. Well. As for me, i found love, it is true love, and yes there is a difference between love and true love. And Unconditional love does exist. About the falling in love at first site... I believe in it. It took me a few glances but I fell in love with my husband nearly as soon as I met him. I think we were together for about 2 and a half weeks when I realized I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I have been enamored ever since. I used to be what one would call 'promiscuous' and I did 'bad' things like drink and do drugs... and when I met Ricardo I continued with my behavior. Then one day I realized that I didn't need to do all that stuff cause Iw as finally happy with myself and my lover and my position in life. He made me happy when I had lost all faith in humanity and God and life in general. He came at the right time, who knows where I would be right now, or if I would be, if he hadn't come along when he did. He started out as a one night stand and now is going to last the rest of my life. Love really can conquer all... lol I believe that if you don't know it right away, then it will never be true love. I mean you can't "work" at falling in love, it just happens. If you don't love the person you are with, they are not going to change. It think thats why there are so many failed marraiges now, people are still in the mentality that sex before marraige is the devil and they feel like they need to get married to make their sins right. They figure, well true love will come eventually. There really is a meaning behind, "I love you, I'm just not IN LOVE with you" There is a difference. People rush into marraige, and 7/10 times it fails... Love doesn't grow, it happens... But thats just how I feel |
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Post by sharonslover on May 8, 2006 10:42:11 GMT -6
in america the raito is 5/10 but i totally agree with what you said
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Post by bapiau on May 8, 2006 18:37:00 GMT -6
this totally doesn't really belong here but this is TOTALLY worth a post. A friend, called A (for the sake of this post,) Asked me out tonight, it was very unexpected and I thought I freaked him out, not turned him on as it seems I do  Unfortunately for him his timing sucks because I used to have a crush on him. Then for the last month or so I have hardly spoken to him and have developed a crush on my ex's best mate, E. So I tell A and he said not to feel guilty about it, and that it's his own fault for not asking me sooner- he was stressing about my ex (whom he knows) and he said maybe we could still go for food somewhere sometime as long as he's paying ^_^. He was very nice about it bless him. Meanwhile I tell E that A asked me out. E says A sounds like a weiner. I ask him why, he says he has a sixth sense. I ask if he's jealous, he says a little. He asks me why I turned down A, I say "because his timing sucks and I really like this guy that I'm pretty sure is not interested in me but it is still unfair to A" E then says, if the other guy is (I'm pretty sure) me, then I'm not not interested. Before I dance a little jig we have a bit of a convo and it turns out that he's been interested in me for a while and tried to tell me on saturday but cos he's so shy he cocked it up. So atm we are txting eachother but also dancing around the "what happens now" I shall keep you updated if you wanna know. Very eventful night for me really |
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Post by Only Me on May 8, 2006 23:46:40 GMT -6
well congrats on all the hormones flowing! I vividly remember the days of crushes and bad timing lol. Fun times oh yes.
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Post by bapiau on May 9, 2006 2:13:29 GMT -6
ah yes, Hooray! for hormones |
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Post by jest on May 10, 2006 3:30:08 GMT -6
My definition usuasly suprises people.
I beleive love is Commitment, Patience, Common sense and last and least, compatibility. (attraction goes under this too). To me love is about the choice to stick with someone, I beleive if people were truely commited to relationships and not in it for personal gratification then the divorce rate would be alot lower. I see it all the time, people jump into relationships with no real inclination for commitment, cause their just testing the water. All the times I see it someone gets hurt. Theres a backdoor in the relationships today, obviosuly there should be but it's so insanely huge now with flashing lights and signs pointing to it.
This is why I would prefer to marry a girl before I moved in with her. Cause when you move in with someone you relize they're annoying and do alot of things you don't like, well lucky me there would be a flashing door saying "break up here". But if I we were married we'd allready have waited to the point of being commited to eachother to the point where we're going to work through those things.
I also think it's more a choice than the hormones jumping around. those start it but they fade, you loose that click...unless you compromise and commit. Which the common sense comes in here, you have to know what the other person is thinking. which the easiest way is to just plain ask. XD I'm really straight forward with the ladies.
Now that I've completely lost my train of thought I'll just go off subject.
I recently wrote a comic, I havn't done the art for it yet it goes:
*hot girl standing at the bar wearing sunglasses*
*guy walks up to her*
Guy: "Do you beleive in Love at first sight?"
Girl: "no, I'm blind."
Guy: "..."
*guy walks away*
Girl: hello?
I thought it was funny anyway...
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Unfortunately for him his timing sucks because I used to have a crush on him. Then for the last month or so I have hardly spoken to him and have developed a crush on my ex's best mate, E. So I tell A and he said not to feel guilty about it, and that it's his own fault for not asking me sooner- he was stressing about my ex (whom he knows) and he said maybe we could still go for food somewhere sometime as long as he's paying ^_^. He was very nice about it bless him. 
